Grieving the loss of a loved one is never easy, and it’s normal to experience intense emotions like sadness, anger, and even disbelief in the early days following a loss. However, when these feelings persist and become more severe over time, it may indicate a condition known as complicated grief. 

Complicated grief occurs when the natural process of grieving becomes prolonged or intensifies, making it hard to move forward. While grief is different for everyone, researchers at the Columbia Center for Complicated Grief have identified some signs to help recognize when you might need additional support. These signs include strong feelings of yearning for the deceased, feeling intensely lonely even when surrounded by others, anger related to the death, or a constant sense of emptiness and meaningless without the person. 

If it has been more than six months and these symptoms persist or worsen, it might be time to consider professional support. Complicated grief can be triggered by several risk factors, including unexpected or violent loss, a loved one dying by suicide, lack of a support system, or past traumatic losses. Recognizing these signs is the first step toward seeking help. 

“Finding a supportive environment to navigate through grief is essential. Connect with Sharon Brubaker at the Grief School to take the first steps toward healing and discover the strength within you. The Grief School is where healing begins.  It’s an opportunity to focus on yourself, learn more about your grief, and receive the support you deserve. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone and taking that first step can make a world of difference. 

What Is Complicated Grief? 

Episode Overview:
In this episode, we explore the concept of complicated grief—what it is, how it differs from normal grief, and the signs to look out for. Complicated grief can be overwhelming, often leaving people feeling stuck in their sorrow for months or even years. We discuss the signs identified by researchers at the Columbia Center for Complicated Grief, which include intense feelings of longing, anger, disbelief, and isolation. We also talk about the importance of recognizing these signs and considering professional support when grief feels too heavy to bear alone. 

Journal Questions: 

• How have your emotions changed or remained the same since your loss? 
• Do you find yourself avoiding certain places, people, or reminders of your loved one? 
• How often do you feel intense longing or yearning for the person who has passed away? 
• What thoughts or feelings do you experience when you think about the future? 
• Have you noticed any changes in how you connect with others since your loss? 
• What fears or anxieties have surfaced as you navigate your grief? 
• How do you feel when confronted with reminders of your loved one’s absence? 
• In what ways have you sought support during your grieving process? 
• How would it feel to seek professional support, and what fears or concerns might you have about it? 
• What small steps can you take to begin acknowledging and processing your feelings of grief?