The Want Vs Need

August 26, 2022

The Need:

Need — require (something) because it is essential or very important rather than just desirable.  The need feels like you will not make it through this pain if you do not have the desired object near you.

In grief there are things that we do because we need them as part of our healing process.  It is not uncommon for us to wear his favorite shirt for 30 days straight.  Because I need to feel his presence in my heart.

VS

The Want

Want — have a desire to possess or do (something); wish for.  I want this shirt.  I have found memories of him in this shirt.

Over time these needs even if they are strange to you. (i.e., not wanting to clean out their hairbrush) will slowly turn into wants.  I want to place his shirt under my pillow as it comforts me.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/hope.heal.recover

 

DOWNLOAD TRANSCRIPT

Podcast: Play in new window | Download | Embed

Subscribe: RSS

Related Podcasts

Can Grief Cause Cancer?

Can Grief Cause Cancer?

Jan 29, 2025

Understanding the Connection Between Grief and Cancer While grief itself does not directly cause cancer, the stress and lifestyle changes that come with intense grief can affect your overall health and well-being. This can potentially impact cancer risk indirectly....

How Grief Affects the Body

How Grief Affects the Body

Jan 15, 2025

Grief is a powerful emotion that can have a huge impact on your body. When you're grieving, you might notice several physical symptoms that can affect your overall health. Here are some common ways grief can affect your body: Physical Symptoms of Grief Fatigue: Grief...

The Grief Storm

The Grief Storm

Jan 5, 2025

What is a Grief Storm?  Grief—what no one prepares you for—isn’t a set of steps or a straight path you can follow to get through it. It’s unpredictable. It’s chaotic. It’s everywhere and nowhere all at once. It defies logic.  Some days, I feel fine—almost normal—and...